One Foot in Front of the Other

Four years ago, I was on the cusp of separating from my husband of almost 15 years. I was ramping up my doula practice again after taking time off for having my son, teaching once weekly to students, facilitating red tent circles, and speaking at conferences. My birth professional life …

Why There is No Easy Button in Birth

“The world tells us a story so that we’ll buy their easy buttons forever. We accept this story as truth because we don’t realize that their story is the poison in our air. Our pain is not the poison; the lies about the pain are.” ~ Glennon Doyle   I started …

they listened – like doulas

“There is such depth to listening, and an exchange, like an echo from inside a canyon, when friends have listened to me at my hopeless. They heard. Someone heard, heard what was happening, what was true and painful, when the center would not hold. They sat, listened, and breathed with …

The Dismembered Mother

How do we get to this place of dismemberment? Where does it start? As young girls, we are taught sacrifice of self. “Act like a lady.” “What a good girl.” “Are you sure you should wear that?” Then we grow older and this self-sacrifice is insidious. Even the most fiercely …

The Real Truth About My Blessingway

I didn’t know what to expect. I just knew it was something I wanted for myself ever since I had heard about the ritual in “Birthing From Within”. My day was already starting weird though. I had a couple of people cancel that morning. This was a big day, and …

Why Birthing From Within?

I was a woman who did it all right, and whom some would say got everything I wanted in labor and birth. I had taken intensive private classes, read all the books I was supposed to, wrote a birth plan, hired a doula, had a supportive doctor and labor team …

Doulas 4 Doulas Support Circle

One of the best things about Kansas City are the caring doulas we have here. It is a profession that is challenging and rewarding. Since 2012, I have been holding support groups (or what I like to call birth circles) for our local doulas here in Kansas City and its …

Hot Flashes and Pap Smears

I’ve reached the ripe old age of 39. I’ve seen my gynecologist more times in the last 2 years than in the last 10 before that (other than when I was pregnant with my first child). Welcome to perimenopause. Miscarriage (IUDs can fail) STD Testing (because you’re not so sure …

The Perfect Birth

Birth is a bridge. Sometimes it’s a rickety bridge, sometimes a very stable bridge. But it is a bridge that you must cross alone. I and your partner help you get on the bridge and help you get off, with open arms…to encourage you, to love you and to welcome you …